May 4, 2014 Sermon Notes
Family Portrait | Generations Behind, Generations Ahead
Review | What’s a Family For?
1) Saturate our homes with the Word of God, to know and love God and others.
2) Exercise what we know, to strengthen the community of faith.
3) Remember and respond to grace, to replenish it in the lives of the next generation.
Numerous external forces may shape us, but the family we have grown up in is the primary and, except in rare instances, the most powerful system that will shape and influence who we are
1. The sins of a previous generation shape the families of today and tomorrow
Human and cultural experiences bear this out
Scripture bears this out
Stories of families
Words from God himself
Generational sins are not: A voodoo curse handed down on the innocent because of previous sins
Generational sins are: The consequences and suffering of sin placed on sons and daughters, sins that will continue if the gospel is not applied
Results: A wet blanket is thrown over the grace of God in the home
Unbelievers see no difference between their home and those of believers
Why is it that most people in our churches seem to be radically different on one level from their neighbors — they pray, read the Bible, go to church, give money to church — but on another deeper level, they are similar. – The Emotionally Healthy Church
2. Our natural response is to hide sin and its effects
At stake is the control of our embarrassment, shame, and having to walk down the hard road of rooting out sin
A. If I don’t talk about it–it doesn’t exist
B. It isn’t nice to bring up things in the past–you just deal with it and move on
C. Dealing with sin and confessing sin are two different things
D. My children don’t have to know about my sin or weaknesses because it doesn’t affect them
E. Talking about sin and mistakes makes me vulnerable and threatens my ability to control and make decisions
F. My family will use my sin against me
3. The gospel response is to apply grace to our own hearts and to those in the past
A. Identify what has been passed on to me that I am now passing on to others
B. Confess it to God and to others (I John 1:9)
C. Forgive others as we have been forgiven (Ephesians 4:32)
Jesus: Father, forgive them for they know not what they do. (Luke 23:34)
D. Engage in a path that leads to restoring relationships for the purposes of honoring God
Discipleship: break destructive patterns, pass on constructive legacies at home and in the church