Philippians | Week 9
The cost of broken relationships: the attractiveness of Jesus in us.
The difficulty of reconciliation: we cover up broken relationships until they are buried deep over time.
1. Assume responsibility for yourself, not be judge and jury over the other.
2. Examine your own heart genuinely and biblically.
Questions for Assessing a Broken Relationship, from Bruce Goettsche
A. Have I fueled this conflict by my own pride, stubbornness or defensiveness? Have I contributed to it by hurtful words, aggressive tactics, or by twisting what really happened?
B. Have I refused to give someone the benefit of the doubt and instead concluded that I know what the motives of another really are?
C. Am I guilty of resisting God by refusing to extend forgiveness and seek reconciliation?
D. Am I waiting for the other person to make the first move and thus violating Paul’s command to do everything that we can do to be reconciled?
3. Admit blind spots and call on others to help.
My self-perception is as accurate as a carnival mirror. If I am going to see myself clearly, I need you to hold the mirror of God’s Word in front of me. – Paul David Tripp, Instruments in the Redeemer’s Hands
Isolation is the enemy of healthy, intimate relationships.
4. Sacrifice your desires for the best of the relationship.
This is not a sacrifice of the truth or transparency.
The common ground: what would demonstrate the grace of Christ toward the other person?
5. Surrender response to God for He is present and in control.
Philippians 4:5 | Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand.